From a contact at

What I wish I knew at 20 that I know now…
When you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, remember that every job you take, mistake you make or relationship you leave are allstepping stones down the path of the person you are meant to be. Even though you can’t see it now, you have a purpose and a destiny that will be revealed as time goes on. So be patient and open to the experiences that life brings you. And, enjoy the journey!


From a recent contact at
I actually tell my young adult femail clients to live life without fear or worry of what other people think.
When I was 20, I was so concerned about ‘doing the right thing’ and what would make others proud or happy that I have many regrets for NOT doing many things that I truly wanted to.
This life is too short to live with any regrets. 
I would love to tell my 20 year old self this:
  • you have a GREAT BODY – enjoy now because one day you’ll have kids!
  • keep your 20’s for yourself – learn who you are by yourself because you don’t need a man to tell you that you’re beautiful
  • read more and drink less
  • travel while you can – once you have kids and a ‘real job’ you can forget it!
  • when you love someone, tell them
  • wear sunglasses all the time and don’t scowl – it is costly to fix.
I could go on and on – I enjoyed my 20s immensely – everything has to happen to
create the person you become….but hind-sight drives me nuts!
Good luck with this!
Susie Shina


I’m responding to your query to HARO about sharing stories about what I’d wish I’d known about when I was in my 20’s.

My name is Tanya Maslach and I’m President of Elevati, Inc. ( and a company devoted to energizing people to to practice the one skill most important for creating long-term success and fulfillment in business (and life) today — RELATIONSHIP BUILDING. I argue that we get “too much college, and not enough kindergarten”.

The one thing I would share that I didn’t appreciate or practice well in my early 20’s was the importance of reaching out and building genuine relationships in a variety of networks. Even though I was outgoing and extroverted, I was too tightly focused on myself and my career….and not quite sure how to meet and become involved in others first.

Thank you! Warm Regards,



If I could somehow go back in time and tell my 20-year-old self three things, here is what I would tell myself (assuming I’d listen!):
1. Everyone else is too busy worrying about and analyzing their own flaws to see yours. So don’t sweat it.
2. Save money and live debt-free. Whatever it is you want, you don’t need it.
3. Find your personal passion and figure out a way to make a living doing that.
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From a recent contact at, where we asked people for sage advice…  

Toni L. McSorley sent us this passage from her new book (due out later in 2009), “The Meaning Filled Life”. 

There are many times it is difficult to be grateful.  Losing a job, ending a relationship, suffering the grief of loss of loved ones, finding you’ve been back-stabbed by a trusted friend, or having your home destroyed by fire or tornado are just a few examples.  There are moments when life rolls over us like a huge, dark bowling ball and we feel utterly flattened, completely defeated, even hopeless. In the face of these times, someone tells you to feel grateful and the only feeling you can summon is the desire to hit them in the mouth.

            Yet the flame has not gone out inside us.  As long as it burns, however low, there is knowledge that it can be fanned anew and return more brightly than before.  The wind encourages this flame is gratitude.

            “I’m glad for the lessons and experience from this job and I know that it will ensure the next job will be better for me…”

            “I am so glad for the good times I had in that relationship, for the joy and the love and the lessons learned that will help me in the next relationship…”

            “I am so thankful for the good memories with my mother, that taught me about love, and that gave me so much in my life.  She gave me the ability to be a better person…”

            “I am glad that I had the chance to show my friend what loyalty was, and to be strong enough to withstand the hurt he caused me while valuing the time we had together as friends.”

            “I am so glad that we were not in the house at that time, and that we survived what could have been a fatal situation.  Only things were lost, not lives…”

            You get the idea.  It is not being foolishly optimistic, it is choosing to concentrate on that which gives us a chance at life instead of the long slide down into hopelessness and despair.

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Compassion is the foundation of a good life…

From a recent contact at,…   we asked people, “knowing what you know now, what sage advice do you have to share with others?”


“Persistence and tenacity pay off! Staying on course, keeping with the program, keeping on with keeping on, all of these to day don’t give up too easily! You CAN do it, just keep trying in new ways with new perspectives from new directions!

Learn from others and then make something your own! There are millions of ways to get a job done. Learn the ways from those around you, read books, learn from teachers and learn from technology. After this, take this information and use it bound with the strengths you have. When you make it your own, it is successful!

Ellen R. Delap, CPO®

Making Time and Space for what’s important to you!

From a recent contact at,…   we asked people, “knowing what you know now, what  Sage advice do you have to share?”

1) Your heart WILL heal

2) You are amazing

3) Your skin does not love the sun/booze/drugs as much as you think

4) Life is precious

5) Be kind

6) Everyone else is just as scared as you.



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