Recently I met a woman,  by all appearances she has a happy, wonderful life.  Great family, including 3 beautiful children, and pregnant with her 4th (due any day – yeah).  But she confided in me that she had  had 3 miscarriages, one prior to each child, and she was terrified with this pregnancy.  Even with only a few days left, she thought she couldn’t stop worrying until she held her baby in her arms.  WOW! (And yes, there were tears in my eyes.)  She also felt like she didn’t want to jinx anything by talking that much about it.  I gave her my bracelet from OurHopePlace…  told her the history, how it is about friends helping friends cope, hope and heal after miscarriage.  How it is a bracelet of hope.  She was very happy to have a bracelet.

It dawned on me, that my new friends miscarriage history is all too common.  I know / have met a number of women who have suffered multiple miscarriages in and around pregnancies that have gone full term.  Interestingly some of the women knew “exactly what the cause was” and knew some precautions to take.  Good!  Others are not so lucky.  My thoughts and prayers go out to them all!!!


Thank you for creating your website. I could have used it when I went through my miscarriages 2 – 5 years ago. Here’s my survival story.
Thank you,

After four devastating miscarriages, I went on to carry a baby to full term. Here’s a quick recount of my miscarriages.

#1 There was never any heartbeat. I started to miscarry at the grocery story (sweating, cramping) and had to rush home. I was 7 weeks along. Advil helped with the cramps.

#2 The egg and the sperm met but nothing happened. I miscarried on my birthday and the due date of my first pregnancy. Since this pregnancy wasn’t very far along, the miscarriage was like a really heavy period with a lot of cramping.

#3 Perhaps the most devastating. There was a heartbeat during one sonogram and then the baby died and there wasn’t any heartbeat during the second sonogram. This was one of the few times I had seen my husband cry.

After this sonogram, we decided infertility tests were in order. Husband has incredibly low sperm count. With his low sperm count it was amazing that he was getting me pregnant. I was diagnosed with Poly Cystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) and was put on Glucophage to control my blood sugar and told to eat a low glycemic diet. The fertility specialist did see some scar tissue in my uterus. Possibly from the miscarriages.

I got pregnant and miscarried baby number four and decided to go in for a D&C to see why I was having all these miscarriages. I passed all the other miscarriages naturally. The D&C did not reveal anything wrong with me. It was a typical miscarriage with an “abnormality in chromosome number 16.”

After being on Glucophage for more than two years, I weaned myself off and decided to control my blood sugar and continue with my healthy eating habits.

Things that helped after all these miscarriages: Doing something nice for myself. Getting a pedicure, buying some wonderful-smelling bath gel and taking a bath and writing the experiences down in my journal.

A little over a year later, I got pregnant again. This one carried to term and my daughter was born on January 9, 2007.

Here are my theories on why I was able to sustain this pregnancy:
The D&C had cleaned out that scar tissue.
Getting off of Glucophage.
I had done two herbal cleanses to clean my system out of toxins.
The month I got pregnant, was the first time in my life that I had forgotten to mark an X on calendar at the start of my period. I had finally let go. It’s very true about how stress can alter your cortisone levels and cause unknown stress in your body. I had finally found a peaceful state with my infertility situation and that’s when it happened.