Over the holidays I had a chance to catch up with a bunch of reality shows that I don’t always get to watch.  I am not the biggest fan of reality TV for many reason but I give a thumbs up to  “Giuliana & Bill” on MyStyle.com – “Once upon a time, E! News anchor Giuliana DePandi and Apprentice winner Bill Rancic fell in love, got married and settled down…in Chicago and L.A.! So what happens when they try to bring a baby into their real-life romantic comedy?” (http://www.mystyle.com/mystyle/shows/giulianaandbill/index.jsp)

The episodes I watched dealt with the couple going through IVF, finding out they were pregnant and then they miscarried at around 7 weeks.  This was the same amount of weeks that I miscarried over 10 years ago.

I cried as watched the couple go thru the heart wrenching experience – especially Giuliana wondering what she had done to cause the miscarriage.  Even though your doctor usually tells you that miscarriages “just happen” and most times it was nothing that the woman did to cause it – I think as a woman you are always second guessing everything you did from the time you were told you were pregnant till the time you find out you miscarried.

I could also relate to the couple feeling like they were accomplished in so many areas of their life but yet “failing” in the baby-making department.  As if they were being punished for something.

Seeing Bill get upset for his wife and what she was going thru was a nice change from the usual stoic man response that is played out on TV.  At http://www.OurHopePlace.com there is a whole section on how men and woman grieve differently and also about how the man may be feeling. (http://www.ourhopeplace.com/PaulaLevyExpert.html)

I applaud the show for really getting into the true emotions of a couple going through miscarriage.  So many times miscarriage is treated as a moment in time on TV but in real life it can affect you for the rest of your life.  Best of Luck to Giuliana & Bill on their journey to have a family.

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Have you been reading the reports?  Angelina is grieving from a miscarriage.  If she did, I am so sorry for her loss.  I hope she has people around her who acknowledge her loss, support her, and take care of her.  I hope she finds OurHopePlace.com and OurHopePlace.wordpress.com and begins her healing journey.

Miscarriage is so common, yet no one really talks about it.  Yes, I know magazines and websites “report” when a famous person has miscarriage.  But no one really talks about it.  And worse, most people don’t know how to help.

I see Holly Robinson Peete on Celebrity Apprentice (yes, not watching Lost tonight, wanted to see Bret, yes he is on).  She and many other famous people are working to cure Autism; a truly important need!  Taking Autism to the public forefront; get research money, get treatment money…  make it better for kids and their families.  This is fabulous!  I wish for the day when Autism is extinct!

I can only hope one day, miscarriage will also cease to exist.  Maybe one day, a group of famous women will come together and raise awareness of miscarriage… maybe there could be a cure one day.

In the meanwhile, at OurHopePlace.com, we to help people heal.   The number one thing to do is to acknowledge the loss.  A simple “I’m sorry” will do.  If you don’t know exactly what to say, that is ok, you can say that too.  Remember there is no magic bullet.  It takes time to recover from a miscarriage.

Want some other ideas on how to help?  Check out our “7 tips on how to help”

Maybe all of Angelina’s family, friends and fans will see this and send/give her the support she needs…  perhaps Google search will pick this up and Angelia will see it…  we can only hope!