September 2010


At OurHopePlace.com we aim to demystify miscarriage.  We think the most important thing is to acknowledge the loss.  We give advice as how to help…  all great.  But what I really wonder, is why don’t we prepare people?  There are all kinds of testing that we go through to ensure have a healthy baby.  Drs tell us about lots of stuff, but they NEVER mention miscarriage.  Wonder why?  Why are we left so unprepared?!

Well, I have recently learned that there are other things that they don’t tell you…

For example…  do you know what a prolapsed uterus is?  And that as it falls, yes your uterus can fall, it can impact your bladder and intestine.  There are a number of things that can contribute to a prolapsed uterus:  long labor, multiple births/pregnancies, over weight, and even genetics — that’s right, it is a genetic condition.

I didn’t  know what it meant, not sure I had heard the term prolapsed uterus…  I have asked a few close girlfriends.  Only two knew and said, I have a prolapsed uterus too, but the dr said don’t worry.  Hmmm, don’t worry???  I would say investigate…  there are things you can do now to strengthen your muscles to make it better for you… so maybe you can avoid surgery.  They are calling their doctors.  By the way, if you have a prolapsed uterus, you need to see a urogyn not a regular gyn.  It makes a difference…

I went for a second opinion regarding my diagnosis of a prolapsed uterus.  The second dr agreed with the diagnosis, agreed with the need for surgery, but said I needed a different technique.   How to choose?

I spoke to a 3rd doctor; he happened to be the head of all things Gyn at a university hospital…  he is some sort of a “demi god” in this field.  How lucky I spoke with him…  he helped me choose.  He pointed out that I probably had scaring from my appendix surgery.  B/c of this, he strongly suggested that I go with the doctor who could do the surgery visually, using robotics.

Women, we need to learn and share…  We need to know our bodies and notice changes.  We need to open the lines of communication!  Be supportive of each other…

I wish you good health!

Grey’s Anatomy Season Premiere – Meredith Grey has a Miscarriage

It should be interesting to see how ABC deals with Meredith Grey’s miscarriage on tomorrow  night’s  episode – will it be swept under the carpet or will ABC address the “real” feelings, thoughts and emotions that come with experiencing a miscarriage??????  Let us know what you think.

Hopefully www.ABC.com & Grey’s Anatomy will truly sink their teeth into the miscarriage topic and Meredith & Derek will have “real life” discussions and reactions to what just happen to them as parents. It would be a great opportunity to help the many women & men who experience the devastation of miscarriage every day. Ways to help someone who has experienced a miscarriage can be found at  www.OurHopePlace.com  (http://www.ourhopeplace.com/whattodo.html)

Our Post from May 2010

Grey’s Anatomy Season Finale – Meredith Grey has a Miscarriage

As a big fan of Grey’s Anatomy, I was sad to watch as Meredith experienced a miscarriage during the season finale (http://abc.go.com/shows/greys-anatomy?CID=yahoo_SEM_UU_1&K_CLICKID=55bf1cc7-c9d8-a6a8-d3d9-000044a78e75).   It will be interesting to see how the show deals with all the emotions, feelings and thoughts that come with losing a baby. I hope they explore how men & women grieve differently for the same loss. This was a topic that we (www.OurHopePlace.com) found very interesting and dedicated part of our website to.

Men, Women, Miscarriage And Grieving Styles         By: Paula Levy

Miscarriage is an emotional and confusing time for most couples. There are few societal rituals for grieving for a miscarriage and the depth of this pain is not well recognized in our culture. In addition, couples have little or no physical existence of their child (pictures, toys, memories) and therefore it becomes difficult for them to validate their loss in the usual ways. Add to this mix the fact that women and men usually grieve differently which can cause miscommunication, hurt and disappointment between them. As a result, a mother and father can have vastly different reactions to a miscarriage. In many cases, the mother doesn’t understand why her husband is not experiencing significant grief and the father doesn’t understand why his wife is so devastated. This can have profound implications for the marriage. http://www.ourhopeplace.com/PaulaLevyExpert.html

In the real world, Derek could send Meredith a “bracelet of hope” to acknowledge her miscarriage and help her start on her healing journey. We can only Hope! (“bracelet of hope” story – http://www.ourhopeplace.com/BraceletStory.html)