January 2009

Dear OurHopePlace.com,

I’m responding to your query to HARO about sharing stories about what I’d wish I’d known about when I was in my 20’s.

My name is Tanya Maslach and I’m President of Elevati, Inc. (www.elevati-inc.com and http://www.elevati-inc.com/blog) a company devoted to energizing people to to practice the one skill most important for creating long-term success and fulfillment in business (and life) today — RELATIONSHIP BUILDING. I argue that we get “too much college, and not enough kindergarten”.

The one thing I would share that I didn’t appreciate or practice well in my early 20’s was the importance of reaching out and building genuine relationships in a variety of networks. Even though I was outgoing and extroverted, I was too tightly focused on myself and my career….and not quite sure how to meet and become involved in others first.

Thank you! Warm Regards,



Dear WWW.OurHopePlace.com,
If I could somehow go back in time and tell my 20-year-old self three things, here is what I would tell myself (assuming I’d listen!):
1. Everyone else is too busy worrying about and analyzing their own flaws to see yours. So don’t sweat it.
2. Save money and live debt-free. Whatever it is you want, you don’t need it.
3. Find your personal passion and figure out a way to make a living doing that.
I like your website. I had a miscarriage years ago, and I wish there was a website like this back then.
Gayle McWeeney
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From a recent contact at http://www.OurHopePlace.com, where we asked people for sage advice…  

Toni L. McSorley sent us this passage from her new book (due out later in 2009), “The Meaning Filled Life”. 

There are many times it is difficult to be grateful.  Losing a job, ending a relationship, suffering the grief of loss of loved ones, finding you’ve been back-stabbed by a trusted friend, or having your home destroyed by fire or tornado are just a few examples.  There are moments when life rolls over us like a huge, dark bowling ball and we feel utterly flattened, completely defeated, even hopeless. In the face of these times, someone tells you to feel grateful and the only feeling you can summon is the desire to hit them in the mouth.

            Yet the flame has not gone out inside us.  As long as it burns, however low, there is knowledge that it can be fanned anew and return more brightly than before.  The wind encourages this flame is gratitude.

            “I’m glad for the lessons and experience from this job and I know that it will ensure the next job will be better for me…”

            “I am so glad for the good times I had in that relationship, for the joy and the love and the lessons learned that will help me in the next relationship…”

            “I am so thankful for the good memories with my mother, that taught me about love, and that gave me so much in my life.  She gave me the ability to be a better person…”

            “I am glad that I had the chance to show my friend what loyalty was, and to be strong enough to withstand the hurt he caused me while valuing the time we had together as friends.”

            “I am so glad that we were not in the house at that time, and that we survived what could have been a fatal situation.  Only things were lost, not lives…”

            You get the idea.  It is not being foolishly optimistic, it is choosing to concentrate on that which gives us a chance at life instead of the long slide down into hopelessness and despair.

 To learn more about Toni L. McSorley

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Compassion is the foundation of a good life…

The word “hope” has always been meaningful to us at www.OurHopePlace.com– it encouraged each of us to start our own healing journey after our miscarriage and it also inspired us to start a blog and website that could help other women who have experienced the same loss in life.   After watching the inauguration today I HOPE we are truly inspired and can move forward to a positive future.

Obama inauguration inspires hope and optimism
Posted: Jan 20, 2009 07:20 PM EST

Updated: Jan 20, 2009 07:39 PM EST

By Theresa Schmidt – bio | email

LAKE CHARLES, LA (KPLC) – The swearing in of Barack Obama means different things to different people and varies to some extent– according to characteristics like age and occupation. But, whether young or old, affluent or not, it’s a day that fills many hearts with a new sense of hope and freedom to dream big.

Link to article – http://www.kplctv.com/global/story.asp?s=9704804

From a recent contact at OurHopePlace.com,…   we asked people, “knowing what you know now, what sage advice do you have to share with others?”


“Persistence and tenacity pay off! Staying on course, keeping with the program, keeping on with keeping on, all of these to day don’t give up too easily! You CAN do it, just keep trying in new ways with new perspectives from new directions!

Learn from others and then make something your own! There are millions of ways to get a job done. Learn the ways from those around you, read books, learn from teachers and learn from technology. After this, take this information and use it bound with the strengths you have. When you make it your own, it is successful!

Ellen R. Delap, CPO®



Making Time and Space for what’s important to you!

From a recent contact at OurHopePlace.com,…   we asked people, “knowing what you know now, what  Sage advice do you have to share?”

1) Your heart WILL heal

2) You are amazing

3) Your skin does not love the sun/booze/drugs as much as you think

4) Life is precious

5) Be kind

6) Everyone else is just as scared as you.



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I think of an anniversary as something to celebrate, therefore today is just a passing of time; 5 years since my miscarriage.  As I write I fight the tears, I wonder if I will ever get through this day with out dire sadness, wonder if I will ever get through the days before today without dread and a stressful build up, and I wonder if the tears will ever go away???  Couldn’t today just be my sister in law’s birthday?  Couldn’t it just be any other day?  Unlikely not, but we’ll see about next year…  in the meanwhile, I will be here, living in my “new normal”…  it’s ok, there is a lot of good here!

Do you know First Magazine?  The promote healthy living made easy.  Lots of good info…  

This month (Jan 26, 2009) there is an article (page 99) that discusses my move away from allergy medicine to acupuncture. Almost two years ago I met Dr. Lisa Clyne at a networking event.  She is a chiropractor and acupuncturist in Westport, CT.  

I went to see her for a pain in my neck (70% of the pain gone the first treatment, 100% cured in a month), and asked about acupuncture and my allergies…  within two session I was off my allergy medicine.  I continue to see Dr Lisa 2 times per month…  and I am breathing well!   This is such a great thing; I want to let everyone know.  

Plus my son was so excited to see his picture in the magazine and I think Fotoduck Studios like the nod for the photo (thanks Bill!)

Life is so busy, we are running here and there and back…  take time to read this…  interesting, kids get it.  We can learn so much from them, if we would only take the time.  Enjoy!

A Violinist in the Metro

A man sat at a metro station in Washington DC and started to play the violin; it was a cold January morning.. He played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, since it was rush hour, it was calculated that thousands of people went through the station, most of them on their way to work.

Three minutes went by and a middle aged man noticed there was musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried on to meet his schedule.

A minute later, the violinist received his first dollar tip: a woman threw the money in the till and without stopping continued to walk.

A few minutes later, someone leaned against the wall to listen to him, but the man looked at his watch and started to walk again.. Clearly he was late for work. 

The one who paid the most attention was a 3 year old boy. His mother tagged him along, hurried but the kid stopped to look at the violinist. Finally the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. All the parents, without exception, forced them to move on.

In the 45 minutes the musician played, only 6 people stopped and stayed for a while. About 20 gave him money but continued to walk their normal pace. He collected $32. When he finished playing and silence took over, no one noticed it. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition. 

No one knew this but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the best musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written with a violin worth 3.5 million dollars.

Two days before his playing in the subway, Joshua Bell sold out at a theater in Boston and the seats averaged $100.

This is a real story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and priorities of people.

The outlines were: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour:
Do we perceive beauty?
Do we stop to appreciate it?
Do we recognize the talent in an unexpected context?

One of the possible conclusions from this experience could be:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing?

I saw this a while ago, and then just again today…  thought it was important enough to share… take the few minutes to listen – isn’t your life worth it.  Share it with your friends; everyone should know there is more to breast cancer than a lump.  Yes, you need to do all the usual stuff (yearly physical and gyn appt, monthly breast self-exams, and if over 40 yearly mammograms, … all the usual), but we also need to be aware.

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