I think the Action Steps to Move through Loss from my book, From Sorrow to Dancing would be helpful to anyone who has experienced any type of loss. I have been told by those who have experienced divorce and “loss of a dream” (aka miscarriage) that they have used these steps and found them helpful. Perhaps your readers will find this useful…
“Action Steps to Move through Loss”… taken from the book From Sorrow to Dancing, by Marcy Kelly
1. Journal your thoughts
2. Ask for help and accept help
3. Be around caring people and allow them to comfort you
4. Give yourself and others grace to make mistakes
5. Join a grief group and share your story
6. Exercise
7. Cry
8. Put off making big decisions for at least a year
9. Forgive those who have hurt you
10. Do a personal check concerning your attitude. Are you bitter? If yes, learn to forgive.
11. Thank those who have helped you.
12. Plan activities and remain engaged in life.
13. Realize that you are not alone. God is always present.
14. Have fun…try dancing!
Thanks for the help you are obviously giving to hurting people.
Blessings,
Marcy Kelly
Author, Speaker, and Certified Life Coach
From Sorrow to Dancing is available at
www.fromsorrowtodancing.com
www.marcythecoach.com
June 12, 2009 at 9:50 am
Given the fact that you, yourself, have experienced losses, I am surprised that you would publish this. It’s not a very comprehensive or understanding list of the grieving process one goes through when one suffers the loss of a child through either miscarriage or stillbirth. Lumping the same grief one experiences during a divorce with the loss of a child is, frankly, ridiculous. Both are sadly and awful but very different losses. “Have fun…try dancing!” is almost insulting…