From a recent contact at www.OurHopePlace.com,
I’d like to help you share stories of miscarriages. I actually have two in a row and felt like there was such little support or information – yet when you mention it – it is so common. So here it goes.
Over the course of 10 months my husband and I experience two miscarriages as we tried for a child. For us, third time was a charm. Both miscarriages were detected when we went in for a 10 week ultrasound and both times, the embryo did not grow past 6 weeks. Both times resulted in a D and C. The first time this happened we were sad, but understood that miscarriages were common, when it happened a second time, we began to worry. Fortunately, we were referred to a fantastic specialist who ran us through a series of test to rule out all issues.
In June of 2007 we were blessed with a strapping 10 lb. 10 oz. boy who has brought so much joy to our lives. This past mother’s day my church held a rose ceremony inviting families to place a red rose in a vase for every child they had. They also invited families to place a white rose in the vase for every child they lost, including miscarriages. That ceremony was extremely emotional for me, not because of the joy I felt on my first mother’s day, but It had hit me that I was so focused on having a child that I didn’t mourn the two miscarriages – perhaps because they happened so early in my pregnancies.
It is so important that women talk through a miscarriage and to share their experiences. We should know that we are not alone and that there is always hope.
Hopefully this small story helps others.
-Kirsten
September 24, 2008 at 8:38 pm
How long had you and your husband been trying? I just found out 2 weeks ago that my husband and I miscarried and it’s kinda sad. Thank you for sharing your story.
October 24, 2008 at 9:25 am
Hearing your story gave me a little hope i have miscarried twice in the past 8 months and we are devistated I want a child more than anything and begining to loose hope i have lost both pregnancies at 6 weeks its awful. I just keep praying….
December 4, 2008 at 3:39 pm
Hi,
You mentioned that your doctor did a series of test. Can you tell me which were those so that I can ask my doctor.
Thanks
December 8, 2008 at 3:20 pm
My doctor shared that there are a few main reasons for miscarriage. I’ve
listed them below with the tests.
- Genetic – The DNA didn’t line in development up or either you or your
partner have or carry a genetic disorder. For this we both needed to
undergo a series of blood tests. Also, they tested my second miscarriage
for a genetic disorder.
- Physical – Your body has an issue with carrying a child. i.e. scar
tissue in your uterus, cysts or another physical obstruction. For this I
received a Hysterosalpingogram or HSG test which is basically an
internal X-ray of your uterus and fallopian tubes
- Hormonal – You may not produce enough of a hormone. This is found out
through blood tests
- Stress or psychological. This one is hard to test and usually goes
away once the others are clear.
Once my husband and I found out we had no issues, other than a little
stress, we conceived and my doctor had me do some preventative things to
hopefully prevent another miscarriage. I took one St. Joseph baby
aspirin daily which helped thin my blood. Apparently blood clots can
occur in the umbilical cord and the baby aspirin helps prevent that. I
also took suppositories of progesterone, a hormone essential during
pregnancy. One other thing I did was take Lovenox, another blood thinner
which needed to be injected into my abdomen. This lasted only for a week
as I hate shots and it was miserable. I had enough misery with the
process and didn’t want to endure any more.
A genetics professor friend of mine shared an interesting perspective
and explained how after conception as an embryo develops each strain of
DNA from a man and woman need to line up exactly to create a person. If
when the two strands come together and the gene for the liver doesn’t
line up with the other gene for the liver then the liver cannot be
created and therefore a miscarriage. This helped me realize just how
miraculous the entire process truly is.
Good luck.
January 25, 2009 at 6:42 pm
This was SO helpful for me. I just had my 2nd miscarriage (both were within the past 4 months), and my OB/GYN is referring me and my husband to a fertility specialist. I was curious as to what tests we may have to undergo, so I appreciate your honesty and willingness to share.
I’ve been reading a lot about hormone supplements along with Baby Aspirin and success stories that followed, so I’m hoping that may work for us, providing we don’t have a deeper chromosomal issue.
I’m very determined to have a family with my dear, sweet husband. I know he will be a great daddy, and I’m excited to become a mom.
Thanks again.
February 7, 2009 at 11:31 pm
I have just had my second miscarriage in 7 months both i found out about at my 12 week scan, i lost both babys at 7 weeks. my first i had a D and C and this time they are waiting to see if i can pass it all on my own. I am feeling very stressed thinking that something is wrong but reading your story has made me feel a bit better, thank you
February 10, 2009 at 2:21 am
No fetal heart tones the doctor said. 11 weeks and 5 days. I had gone to the fertility doctor. My daughter was 4 years old and I am getting older. No time to waste. Get those frozen embryos out and give them a chance at life. 6 weeks later I was pregnant for the second time. I felt confident. My visits with the fertility doctor were over and I was going on to my first prenatal visit with an OB. My regular OB couln’t take me because of my age (53). So I was given the name of a high-risk doctor and I got an appointment scheduled in 3 weeks. The night before my appointment, I thought “what happened to the baby? Where is it?…” I brushed the thoughts out of my head. I was excited the next day. My first visit to this doctor. Upon arrival, I was told I was supposed to have a full bladder. And was chided for using the restroom. I was finally brought into the ultrasound room without seeing the doctor. The US Tech kept complaining that I didn’t have a full bladder and she wouldn’t be able to do a good ultrasound. She kept complaining the whole time. Then she left the room, came back, and said that I would see the doctor now and finish the US later. I was sent clear back to the last office. He asked me questions that I know now were irrelevant. Then he told me that the baby was dead. I was shocked. How could he make a diagnosis when the US tech had already told me she wasn’t able to do an US because I didn’t have a full bladder? He never went into the US room, he didn’t see what was going on or hear what the US tech was saying. All I could think was WOW! What a fantastic giant ego this man had. He could make such a drastic diagnosis without a proper US! I was furious over his behavior. He said he had done his job and dismissed me. I had to walk all the way thru his office with people staring at me as I left. He had told me that I had to have a D&C to get the baby out or else I would hemorhage. I called my regular OB doctor and asked for a second opinion. I was sent to another Radiology place and those people were great. I had to wait a long time, but they were very nice, the US tech was very thorough. This doctor, a radiologist, came in and looked at the US himself with the US tech. Same dx, but at least they did their job. The first doctor clearly did not do his! I think his job was to take care of the patient. He didn’t. He should have been in that room checking up on the US Tech to make sure she was doing her job right. If he had been in that room, he would have heard what she said and would have been able to correct her and ensure that his dx was believable. To me, what he did was the ultimate of irresponsibility. Further, he should have called my OB while I was there and transfered my care over to her. I was left, abandoned by all doctors. I don’t know what I would have done if my OB hadn’t been willing to step in and help me.
I had surgery a couple of weeks later. This was the worst experience of my life! I have been sick for the past 2 months. They thought I had valley fever, but it turned out that I just hadn’t been given the right antibiotic. I have been well for 2 weeks now. I am praying that I can have another procedure and carry another baby to term succesfully. I don’t want my daughter to be an only child. I want all 4 frozen embryos to have life.
March 23, 2009 at 10:41 am
Hi
I too just had my second miscarriage at 6weeks in 5 months. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I went in for the test. Had 3 rounds of blood tests (Quants) and all was doing well.
I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks and saw the baby and the heartbeat. We believed all was ok.
I went to see the health educator for the 2nd time last monday. I started bleeding that friday.
My husband and I went in to the office. He did the exam, seemed ok. They tried to hear the heartbeat on the doplar since I was 9 weeks but no luck so they immediately took me in for an ultrasound.
At that point I heard the dreaded words the baby stopped progressing sometime after 6 weeks. I really thought I did everything right this time.
Yesterday I miscarried. It was one of the worst experieces of my life. I will never forget how I felt or what I saw. The horror that my husband helped me through.
I go to the doctor today. I already have 2 beautiful boys for which I am so grateful. We had much difficulty having them. Do I get tested or just thank God for all I have. I am scared to move forward.
March 23, 2009 at 10:59 pm
J, In time, may you find peace and happiness – however you choose to define it… I totally understand the scared to move forward. When I suffered my miscarriage, I had to focus on “near rock”… just a little each day, just little steps forward (and sometimes steps backwards)… fast forward to today, I can still remember the devastation, but now it seems far away… I wish that for you.
May 18, 2009 at 11:03 am
Hi there
I too have had 2 miscarriage1st 1 coming up for 2 years ago i was 11 weeks and 4 days,and the 2nd 1 at 10weeks and 2 days,When i was 8 weeks and 5 days i went for a scan and everything was fine baby had a heartbeat which was bril as i was scared it would happen again,so i could wait for my 12 week scan to see my baby ,Then On thursday the 7th of may i had a few crampy pains and sum spotting of blood so i called the hospital they said come up the next day “friday” for emergency scan, I was terrifed i couldnt stop crying i know there was somthing wrong, My partner and my mum came with me for scan when i went for scan they couldnt get a good picture of the baby, So they wanted to do a viginal scan so i agreed they got my mum in the room and they said am sorry but this pregnancie isnt goin ani further i was devastated,so on sunday the 10thmay i went in to hospital and deliverd my baby, i Just wish i could have my baby bk i want 1 soo much xx
August 5, 2009 at 4:11 pm
Hi Kirsten,
Thank-you for sharing your story. We found out about our second MC in July the week of our 1 year anniversary. I am beyond devastated and don`t understand why this is happening to me. I am 31 and have been a picture of health all my life. Reading your story has brought me some hope that the 3rd time around can work.